My name is Shai Rotem, and I was born and raised in Israel where I became a certified surrogate partner in 1997. I’ve since then become an international mentor, trainer, and supervisor in the field. I work according to the Masters and Johnson’s professional-clinical surrogate partner therapy model. I was supervised by internationally renowned Dr. Ronit Aloni, and follow that multidisciplinary rehabilitation model.
I am excited to share my passion for this healing work with those who can truly benefit from it. I believe that the mind and body are great teachers and my goal is to help you to establish a delightful, satisfying, and rewarding connection with both. In a safe, warm environment, we co-create space for you to achieve a new level of comfort with yourself – and with others, so that you can be healthy, whole, and confident in the outside world and in all of your relationships.
I believe that:
“Every person deserves to be loved and every person deserves to be in a loving relationship.”
About My Surrogacy Practice:
As a surrogate partner I help women with concerns or issues around intimacy, sexuality, sexual trauma, virginity, body image, difficulties creating relationships and more.
I specialize in, but am certainly not limited to, helping women overcome Vaginismus and other physical challenges and concerns, and guiding them to improve their abilities in creating healthy relationship with a man.
My practice is based in Los Angeles, California but I work internationally.
Additionally, I lecture, train, and teach about Surrogate Partner Therapy and related topics in graduate schools and clinics worldwide.
In my surrogacy practice I work with clients in conjunction with a therapist. The client sees the therapist for verbal therapy session then they see me for experiential sessions. By seeing both the surrogate partner and therapist the client has a holistic process which also provides high level of support and opportunity to overcome major issues and also heal past traumas.
The sessions are designed to build the client’s self-confidence, communication skills, understanding of sensuality, and learn about physical and emotional intimacy in a safe space. This is accomplished through structured exercises in communication, breathing techniques, meditation, relaxation, touching techniques and social skills development.
• More comfortable being around men
• Feel comfortable with physical and non-physical intimacy
• Get a better and deeper connection with your body
• Have a better relationship with your body
• Reduce/remove anxiety
• Increase your sensitivity and body awareness
• Learn how to feel comfortable in sexual environment
• Release old beliefs and anxieties around sex
• Feel confident as a lover
• Gain self-love and self-acceptance
• Overcome sexual problems
• Unlock your sexual potential
• Develop social skills to make you a better date
• Address adult virginity
• Improve your body image
This is not just a career for me, it is a life journey. It is my honor and privilege to be a part of your healing process. From time to time I receive a postcard or wedding announcement from a former client, letting me know of their accomplishments – this fills me with great joy, purpose and happiness.