My name is Shai Rotem, and I was born and raised in Israel where I became a certified surrogate partner in 1997. I’ve since then become an international mentor, trainer, and supervisor in the field. I work according to the Master’s and Johnson professional-clinical surrogate partner therapy model. Additionally, as a supervisee for nine years under the internationally renown Dr. Ronit Aloni, I follow a multidisciplinary rehabilitation model.
I am excited to share my passion for this healing work with those who can truly benefit from it. I believe that the mind and body are great teachers and my goal is to help you to establish a delightful, satisfying, and rewarding connection with both. In a safe, warm environment, we co-create space for you to achieve a new level of comfort with yourself – and with others, so that you can be healthy, whole, and confident in the outside world and in all of your relationships.
I believe that:
“Every person deserves to be loved and every person deserves to be in a loving relationship.”
• About My Surrogacy Practice:
As a surrogate partner I help women with concerns or issues around intimacy, relationships, sexuality, communication, dating, and body image. I specialize in – but am certainly not limited to – helping women overcome Vaginismus and other physical concerns, and guiding them to improve their abilities in creating healthy relationships with men. Part of the client-surrogate process is that in our work together, we create a mini relationship with a beginning, middle and end. This is always a transformative process for both the client and myself.
My practice is based in Los Angeles, California but I work internationally.
Additionally, I lecture,train and teach about Surrogate Partner Therapy and related topics in graduate schools and clinics worldwide.
In my surrogacy practice I work with clients in conjunction with a sex therapist. The client sees their therapist for verbal therapy and see me for experiential sessions. By seeing both the surrogate partner and therapist the client has a holistic process which also provides high level of support and opportunity to overcome major issues and heal past traumas.
The sessions are designed to build the client’s self-confidence, communication skills, understanding of sensuality, and learn about physical and emotional intimacy in a safe space. This is accomplished through structured exercises in communication, breathing techniques, meditation, relaxation, touching techniques and social skills development.
• Feel comfortable being around men
• Feel comfortable with intimacy
• Get a better and deeper connection with your body
• Have a better relationship with your body
• Reduce anxiety
• Increase your sensitivity and body awareness
• Learn how to feel comfortable in sexual environment
• Release old beliefs and anxieties around sex
• Feel more confident as a lover
• Gain self-love and self-acceptance
• Overcome sexual problems
• Unlock your sexual potential
• Develop social skills to make you a better date
• Address adult virginity
This is not just a career for me, but a life’s journey.
It is my honor and privilege to be a part of your healing process. Whenever I’ve received a post card or wedding announcement from a past client to let me know of her accomplishments in love and life, it fills me with great joy, purpose and happiness.