Masters and Johnson, the pioneers of the modern sex therapy first started using surrogate partners more than 60 years ago for single clients (clients without partners) who needed hands-on help. Apart from being single, the client often had emotional, sexual dysfunctions that resulted in self-loathing, shame, guilt, anxieties around intimacy, difficulty in creating or maintaining relationships.
Surrogate partner therapy is available for adult clients of all ages and all sexual orientations with surrogate partners of either gender. The surrogate plays the part of a partner to the client in practices intended to build the client’s skills in the areas of emotional and intimate relationships. These practices include exercises in communication, relaxation, sensual, and erotic touching. Initially clients and surrogate partner spend time touching with clothes on and then clothes off. An average Surrogate Partner Therapy process is expected to take several months.
There are two types of programs for Surrogate Partner Therapy:
1. Open-ended Therapy Program:
The client sees the surrogate partner once a week, for an experiential session. The client sees the sex therapist for a verbal session once a week, until the client reaches his/her goals.
2. Intensive Therapy Program:
Structured to help clients who are from out of town or out of state and do not have a therapist-surrogate team in their local area. The client travels to Los Angeles for 7-14 days and sees the sex therapist and the surrogate partner every day for the duration of this program.
To become a certified Surrogate Partner, experience in nursing, psychology, social work, or alternative therapy are useful, but more importantly, people who have experience in creating healthy relationships, sexually mature, emotionally stable make the best candidates.
SPTO – Surrogate Partner Therapy Organization, is the world leading organization that offers training for individuals wishing to become surrogate partners and for therapists wishing to learn how to supervise surrogates to work with their clients.
SPTO offers referrals for therapists seeking trained, certified, ethical, professional surrogate partners, and for clients seeking therapists who have experience and skill in working with surrogate partners. SPTO also offers continuing education opportunities for surrogate partners and therapists. For more information see: www.SurrogatePartnerTherapy.org
Surrogate partner therapy is designed for people who need help creating relationships and experiencing difficulty on the sexual / emotional / physical level.
Surrogacy is successfully proven with women who have:
Vaginismus, Vestibulitis, orgasmic issues, pelvic or genital pain disorders, lack of self confidence, late virginity, shyness, sexual inhibitions, social and dating skills deficits. We work with women who have experienced sexual traumas or have been sexually abused. We also help women to become better lovers and to feel more comfortable with their sexuality.
Surrogacy is successfully proven with men with:
rapid ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, delayed ejaculation, pelvic or genital pain disorders, lack of self confidence, late virginity, sexual inhibitions, social and dating skills deficits. We also work with men who have experienced sexual traumas or have been sexually abused. We also help men to become better lovers and feel more comfortable with their sexuality.
In the course of therapy we teach men and women how to communicate better, how to feel safe with another person, to get in touch with their body, be guilt-free in intimate situations.
Surrogate partner therapy process is created personally according to the client’s needs. It is a cognitive-behavioral short-term therapy in which the client meets with a therapist once a week and meets with the surrogate partner once a week. (in the intensive format the client sees both every day). The client is having verbal session with the therapist and having the experiential session with the surrogate partner. Surrogates in our team are professionally trained and certified by SPTO. we work according to the standards and code of ethics put forth by SPTO.
We offer treatment options for people with disabilities or people who need sexual rehabilitation. We work with single people who want to be in intimate relationships with others, but are having difficulty in forming or sustaining these relationships.
Pain disorder – Many women are unable to have pain free intercourse and this can lead to feelings of anger, frustration, sadness and even despair.
In cases of Vaginismus and Vestibulitis or any other pelvic pain it is recommended that the client will to see a physical therapist for learning how to relax her pelvic floor muscles, how to relax her PC (Pubococcygeus) muscle. In this treatment, biofeedback techniques can be used in order to learn how to control the muscle tone of her pelvic floor. This course of therapy in conjunction with the surrogate partner and sex therapy work can give the client a better chance of success, allowing the client to have sexual pleasure and pain free sex, and a better body awareness.
Body awareness and a healthy, pleasurable sex life have been shown to be preventative for certain diseases and for having a better function of the brain.
WHAT IS A SURROGATE PARTNER?
A surrogate partner is a person, man or a woman, who works with clients to overcome issues around intimacy, sexual dysfunction and enhance relationships. The goals range from relieving anxiety around intimacy or dating to addressing specific concerns such as virginity, erection response, ejaculation timing, painful intercourse, inhibited desire or negative body image. The therapy process supports the healing of past traumatic experiences, overcome negative responses and learn how to have pleasure. For anyone who has experienced changes resulting from a disability and does not have a partner to work with, the surrogate can help explore and develop sexual potential.
Surrogates are not the solution merely for someone who cannot find a date. The goal of the relationship is to establish self-esteem through authentic interactions and build confidence through successful experiences. Surrogate partners differ from other sexual healers in that they are professionally trained and work in a therapeutic situation comprised of client, surrogate and supervising therapist. The surrogate partner feeds information back to both the client and therapist. Together surrogate, client and therapist work in a therapeutic triad. The three-way relationship is usually terminated by mutual agreement among the client, surrogate and therapist.