William Masters and Virginia Johnson, the pioneers of modern sex therapy first started using surrogate partners more than 60 years ago in their work with clients who did not have partners, that needed hands-on help. Apart from being single, clients often had emotional, sexual dysfunctions that resulted in self-loathing, shame, guilt, anxieties around intimacy, difficulty in creating or maintaining relationships.
Surrogate partner therapy is designed for adult clients of all ages and all sexual orientations with surrogate partners of either gender. The surrogate partner takes the role of a supportive partner in teaching client skills in the areas of emotional and intimate relationships. These practices include exercises in communication, relaxation, sensual, and erotic touching. Initially clients and surrogate partner spend time touching with clothes on and then clothes off. An average Surrogate Partner Therapy process is expected to take several months.
Surrogacy is successfully proven with women who have:
Vaginismus, Vestibulitis, orgasmic issues, pelvic or genital pain disorders, lack of self confidence, late virginity, shyness, sexual inhibitions, social and dating skills deficits. We work with women who have experienced sexual traumas or have been sexually abused. We also help women to become better lovers and to feel more comfortable with their sexuality.
Surrogacy is successfully proven with men with:
rapid ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, delayed ejaculation, pelvic or genital pain disorders, lack of self confidence, late virginity, sexual inhibitions, social and dating skills deficits. We also work with men who have experienced sexual traumas or have been sexually abused. We also help men to become better lovers and feel more comfortable with their sexuality.
In the course of therapy we teach men and women how to communicate better, how to feel safe with another person, to get in touch with their body, be guilt-free in intimate situations.
Surrogate partner therapy process is created personally according to the client’s needs. It is a cognitive-behavioral, short-term therapy.
The client is having verbal session with the therapist and experiential sessions with the surrogate partner.
We offer treatment programs for people with disabilities, people who need sexual rehabilitation and people who had sexual trauma.
Pain disorder – Many women are unable to have pain free intercourse and this can lead to feelings of anger, frustration, sadness and even despair.
In cases of Vaginismus and Vestibulitis or any other pelvic pain it is recommended that the client will to see a physical therapist for learning how to relax her pelvic floor muscles, how to relax her PC (Pubococcygeus) muscle. In this treatment, biofeedback techniques can be used in order to learn how to control the muscle tone of her pelvic floor. This course of therapy in conjunction with the surrogate partner and sex therapy work can give the client a better chance of success, allowing the client to have sexual pleasure and pain free sex, and a better body awareness.
Body awareness and a healthy, pleasurable sex life have been shown to be preventative for certain diseases and for having a better function of the brain.
WHAT IS A SURROGATE PARTNER?
A surrogate partner is a person, man or a woman, who works with clients to overcome issues around intimacy, sexual dysfunction and enhance relationships. The goals range from relieving anxiety around intimacy or dating to addressing specific concerns such as virginity, erection response, ejaculation timing, painful intercourse, inhibited desire or negative body image. The therapy process supports the healing of past traumatic experiences, overcome negative responses and learn how to have pleasure. For anyone who has experienced changes resulting from a disability and does not have a partner to work with, the surrogate can help explore and develop sexual potential.
Surrogates are not the solution merely for someone who cannot find a date. The goal of the relationship is to establish self-esteem through authentic interactions and build confidence through successful experiences. Surrogate partners differ from other sexual healers in that they are professionally trained and work in conjunction with a sex therapist. Team work is an essential key for success of client’s healing process.