Frequently Asked Questions about surrogate partner therapy:
Q: How is the surrogate partner therapy process work?
A: In this therapy process the client sees a mentor once a week for a verbal session (normally 50-60 minutes), then on the same week the client sees the surrogate partner for an experiential session. (1.5-3 hours session).
Q: Is it ok to see the surrogate partner without seeing a mentor?
A: No. Every client in surrogate partner therapy have to see a mentor in conjunction with seeing the surrogate partner. We work according to the SPTO code of ethics. The foundations of this therapy process is having a therapeutic triad – Client-Surrogate Partner-Mentor.
Q: What is a mentor?
A: Mentor is a practitioner who is very knowledgeable and experiences in surrogate partner therapy and is having the verbal sessions with the clients. Whereas the surrogate partner is the one who is having the experiential session with the client.
Q: Who are the practitioners that can act as a mentor?
A: Ideally is to work with a therapist who has experience working with a surrogate partner. The practitioner that can act as the mentor in this therapy process is a practitioner from the fields of: sex therapy, sex coaching, clinical sexology, clinical psychology, psychotherapy, marriage and family therapy.
Q: Who is “SPTO”?
A: SPTO is the Surrogate Partner Therapy Organization, it is the international organization which is responsible for:
1. Training practitioners to become certified surrogate partners.
2. Standardization of the clinical work in the field.
Here is SPTO website address: www.SurrogatePartnerTherapy.org
Q: What about a client who is already seeing a therapist?
A: In this case the client/therapist will contact the surrogate partner for an initial phone call, the next step would be to schedule a 3-way meeting – with the client, the therapist and the surrogate partner in the therapist’s office. In this meeting all 3 parties will have an opportunity to meet in person, ask all the questions and get clear about the therapy process, once all 3 parties are clear, ready and in agreement, the therapy process can start.
Q: Who can benefit from surrogate partner therapy?
A: Any person who is having difficulty in creating a satisfying relationship due to social, relational or sexual dysfunctions. We have a special programs for people who were sexually abused, people with fears of intimacy, women with Vaginismus, men with erectile dysfunctions, men with early ejaculation, people with fear of touch, virgins, and people who had sexual trauma.
These are very basic questions and answers. There is a lot of knowledge and questions about the surrogate partner therapy process. I’m sure you have many more questions, please ask me and I will give you the answers. You can ask via email in the “Contact Us” page, we can also schedule a phone call (free of charge) to give you all the information, and answer all of your questions.